Marvie here! Neysha had to go down South with her mom and dad and so I am left alone here in our blog. She sent me a message earlier reminding me that I need to make sure that I log-in today. Whew! Of course, I love what I am doing, regardless of the obligation to do so.
The thing is, without Neysha here, I have nothing to discuss things with. So I was in a total block earlier when I started to sit down and tried to think of a good topic to write. Just then, the doorbell in our unit rang. When I checked, I didn’t know who the person was outside. Then I asked, he just said he was looking for somebody in our floor, and might have just pressed the wrong button. I said, okay, sorry, wrong house.
Then, the idea came in. Of course, the situation earlier was kinda different. That was the best thing to do, for security purposes. But, what if? What if, suddenly you need to go to somewhere unfamiliar, and you need to interact with strangers, how would you fare?
Talking with Strangers
Growing up, we always hear our parents reminding us not to talk to strangers. However, as we grow older, the need to talk even with strangers has become a need. The reason is because we need to socialize and interact with other people. May there be a purpose or not, we need to know how to engage even in a small talk with strangers. The question is, how can we do so comfortably? Here are 5 ways to do so:
- For instance, you are in a social gathering, and you suddenly find yourself in a situation where you have to interact with another person you barely, or do not know at all. It is our tendency to ask “how are you?”. But reality dictates that after an answer is given, it can lead to a long and awkward pause. Thus, it is better to think of a follow-up question, such as asking: “how do you know (host)?”. It can be a good conversation starter. We have a small world, you know. Be quick to create links with people.
- Another way is to ask open ended questions. Of course, you also have to be very careful because the person you are speaking with might misinterpret your approach as something invasive.
- Start with a compliment. Well, yeah, yeah, it works better with girls. I mean, it would be very awkward for men to just go up and say: ‘hey, I love those ties,’, or ‘I love your suit, where did you get it?’. Still, a compliment about work, or other things can still catch the attention of a stranger and can start a conversation.
- Make eye contact. Whatever plan you may have as a topic for discussion, having an eye contact is very important. Of course, you have to make sure that you don’t look like you are hypnotizing someone; you just have to look real.
- Talk about some common grounds. For example, if you are at a company affair, you can talk about your work. Be keen in observing whether the person you are speaking with is the type of person who feels superior or inferior. Give compliments, only when necessary.
There you go, I guess talking with a stranger is not that difficult at all. We simply need to socialize, that’s all!